Guest Blog: Yvette Allen-Tatum’s I Didn’t Know

30 Apr

This week, Coffeehouse Conversations welcomes new author Yvette Allen-Tatum who shares with us about her recent release I Didn’t Know!

I Didn’t Know: Identifying, Confronting and Overcoming Child Sexual Abuse
Yvette L. Allen-Tatum
ISBN 13: 978-0-9883126-7-8

Book Synopsis:
jpg-book coverI Didn’t Know – Identifying, Confronting & Overcoming Child Sexual Abuse – the title is indicative of the subject matter. In this book the author brings to the forefront the many faces of child sexual abuse; those of the victims and the abusers. Yvette Allen-Tatum boldly confronts her past of child sexual abuse to demonstrate that TRUE deliverance is possible. Yvette believes that we ALL (victims, abusers, enablers, nay-sayers, etc.) can OVERCOME the horrible effects of child sexual abuse.
This book proves that true healing is possible and necessary for us to become more than CONQUERORS through Christ Jesus.
As a community, we have to:

  • Identify Child Sexual Abuse
    • We have to talk about it (raise public awareness)
    • Know the signs & symptoms
  • Confront Child Sexual Abuse –
    • Error on the side of caution – THE CHILD
    • Be quick to BELIEVE the victim and make all necessary inquiries
    • Studies show people are more apt to believe the innocence of the accused; this has to END
  • Overcome Child Sexual Abuse –

We overcome by the Blood of the Lamb and the WORD of OUR TESTIMONY

CC: Why did you write this book/What was the inspiration behind this book?

YAT: The inspiration for writing I Didn’t Know – Identifying, Confronting, and Overcoming Child Sexual Abuse came from watching Tyler Perry on The Oprah Winfrey Show one day. On this particular show, Tyler Perry came forward to tell his story about being sexual abused. Then, Oprah Winfrey and Tyler Perry, took his story to the next level by having an audience filled with nothing but men who had been sexually abused. I really cannot remember the actual format of the show or shows; I just remember the impact it had upon me. I thought what he had done, his coming forward, was very brave and took a great deal of courage.
I remember sitting on the sofa crying, thinking to myself those must have really been some horrible experiences. It was at that moment, I heard the Lord speak to me saying, “You have been sexually abused, as well.” I sat for a moment thinking to myself, “When and how could this have happened to me?” That is when the Lord reminded me of the things that happened to me. As He began to share my experiences with me, I became compelled to tell someone; anyone who would listen. After this walk down memory lane, I pondered this thought, “If I did not realize I had been sexually abused, then how many other children, including those who are now adults do not realize they have been sexually abused?”

As a survivor of Child Sexual Abuse (CSA), I strongly believe that victims of child sexual abuse can no longer afford to be silent. As a community, better yet as a nation, we cannot continue to allow these heinous acts to be swept under the carpet. Someone has to be bold enough to come forward!
From there, I started writing. As God took me down memory lane, I just began to write down everything He said to me. It was like taking dictation. So, why did I decide to share my story? I decided to share my story because people need to know what happened to me and to countless others. More importantly, people need to know that Child Sexual Abuse (CSA) can happen to anyone! The number of people (victims) who remain silent and never tell their stories far outweighs the number of people who come forward. Therefore, my quest in writing this book was/is:
• To expose the enemy (I believe this lessens his power);
• To overcome the guilt & shame by being able to confront it head on;
• To encourage and educate others on how to identify, confront & overcome sexual abuse; and
• To set the captives FREE

CC: What makes this book different from other books?

YAT: Admittedly, I am a novice when it comes to writing. I’ve only authored two books and I have yet to feel like an author or a writer; I am a storyteller. As long as I feel like I have a story to tell I will continue to do so.

CC: What’s the hardest part about being an author?

TAT: The hardest thing I have encountered thus far is research! Even though you know the data is out there it is not always easy to find. Searching but not finding can be very frustrating!

CC: What do you love most about being an author?

YAT: What I love the most about being an author is the creative freedom that I have. Although both of my books are autobiographical in nature, I love being able to tell my story the way that I want to tell it! I hope I give people an opportunity to see my life – live my life from my point of view.

CC: Who is your favorite author/what is your favorite book and why?

YAT: I do not know that I have a favorite author, but if I had to choose one it would be Maya Angelou. I chose her because she writes about real life; she wrote about her life.

CC: What advice would you give aspiring authors?

YAT: Writing is fun, but it can be grueling so write about those things you have a passion about

CC: What question or comment are you asked most frequently about your book?

YAT: Why? That is the question I get the most, “Why did you write this book?” I can only answer that question with the same answer:
My quest (purpose) in writing this book was/is:
• To expose the enemy (I believe this lessens his power);
• To overcome the guilt & shame by being able to confront it head on;
• To encourage and educate others on how to identify, confront & overcome sexual abuse; and
• To set the captives FREE

CC: Do you blog? What’s your blog site address? What do you blog about?

YAT: I’ve tried blogging and I actually enjoy it, but I don’t do it often enough. I have two blog sites, but my post are few in number.

CC: What events/book plans do you have coming up?

YAT: In addition to the Virtual Book tour, I am currently gearing up to host my most compelling event as of yet, The I Didn’t Know Public Forum to RAISE Public Awareness and Raise Public Consciousness About Child Sexual Abuse (CSA). The Forum is scheduled for 4/19/14, in Richmond, Va. It is FREE and Open to the Public. People can register from my website

photoCC: How can readers contact you?

Book can be purchased at Amazon, Barnes and Noble, All online retail outlets and my personal websites

About the Author:

Author, Teacher, Conference Host, Public Speaker, Encourager, Motivator, Ordained & licensed Minister of The Gospel, Radical for Christ, undercover Comedian and the list goes on…
Yvette is a graduate of Grace Christian College where she earned her Masters of Divinity and a Bachelor of Arts in Theology. She is also a graduate of University of Richmond, where she earned a Bachelor of Science in Business Administration with a Concentration in Finance and a Minor in Leadership Studies. In addition, she has 30 plus years of experience in income tax preparation and bookkeeping.
As the Founder of Surrounded by Faith Ministries, Yvette has had the opportunity to touch and transform the lives of many women with the Word of God. This mighty Woman of God has a prophetic teaching anointing which has enabled her to cross many boundaries. As such, the Call of God on her life has broadened from transforming the lives of women to transforming LIVES with the Word of God. While she still holds a passion to train and equip women in the life study and application of the Bible, her ultimate goal is to strengthen families. To do so her platform is geared to men, women and children.

*Yvette’s appearance on Coffeehouse Conversations is hosted by WNL Virtual Blog Tours.

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